5 Guys that are the biggest waste of your time -Advice

I am back with another blog post on life.
I am here with 5 guys or just persons in general who are your biggest waste of time.
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In life we have either dated one of these men or heard of them. After the relationship ends or even during the relationship your days are spent counselling. His ex is so distraught about his actions.
Today, I am going to help you spot the men you should avoid. Hopefully, this will help with your present or future love life. One thing we should all remember is to never put anyone above yourself. Unless you are religious, then it would be God or any other supreme being. Do what you know is best for you and always seek needed help.

5 Guys to avoid:

1. The womanizer- This is the guy that seems "oh so cool" and always claims he is never in a relationship. He always acts like he is too cool to show much emotion in public. Yet in private you are his "world" and only you two know there is a relationship because he does not want anyone is his "business."
The list could go on of the warning signs. In some recent times it has even become harder to find who they are. Some men do not display any signs.
Always remember to trust you instinct. If you are not comfortable leave.


2. Man afraid of commitment- Well...either he is never in a relationship and it always ends as a result of the actions of everyone else, never him. Or maybe he is one of those men dating women for years with no sign of a marriage or engagement in site. I even saw a case where a women dated a man for ten years before he worked oven commitment issues and finally proposed.
If you really love him do what you think if best.
I am telling you what I would do. Between 1-4 years you are suppose to figure out whether you want me to be your wife or not. Before you approached me you should have solved all of your problems.
To think about it this way, it is emotionally draining to try and think you can fix someone. Each man has to make a decision for himself or you will just be causing yourself unnecessary hurt.


3. The cheap guy- He is always complaining about money. His bills always seem to be the highest and he is always low on cash. There is always another reason for him to never buy you anything not even a birthday present.
I know some independent women want to buy their own things. I totally agree with that. But, I am from a family where the man should provide. There is no way I should be dating you and if I am ever in need I can never call you. I think that is a waste. It shows you what your marriage would be like. Have you ever heard of some wives complaining that their men don't provide. That is because many times he never had to do anything during the dating stage. Trust me the dating stage is when a man tries to impress you the most.
Also, do not think it is because of his income why he does not do certain things. I remember I met this guy once who was far from wealthy. He still made sure I never wanted for anything. I was not showered with designer gifts but, he still did the gentleman like thing.


4. The abusive man- Stay away from him. He is like poison. He wants you to spend your days with him and him alone. You should not have any friends and in some cases not even talk to family. At first you thought, the possessiveness was not too bad until he said some creepy line like he would kill himself if you left. This is a man to run from once you spot the signs. He will not change. He will only get worse.


5. Men who put you last- We have all heard of those stories everything else is before you whether in a relationship or marriage. He either spends most of his life with his business, his mother or his friends. Frankly you are tired of it and he does not seem to care. All I can say is tell him how you feel or leave. Some men will never change or you may not be as important to him as you think.
One other important thing to note is to ensure you are not being just too needy. If he is a businessman you cannot expect him to be calling you every five minutes.

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The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge! -Lisa Hanna

I'm Back!

I just had to share this video. For some reason everyone has been doing this ALS Ice Bucket Challenge. I don't even know how this started but, when one of fav persons did it I just had to share. 

She is the Minister of Youth and Culture for Jamaica, former Miss Jamaica World and Miss World winner.

But, one thing that we need to remember if that this challenge is about donating. Giving to charities and educating others on persons suffering from Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). I pray that when people do this challenge they will actually donate to the cause.

Educate yourselves on the topic and enjoy!

Maybe one day I will try it :)

XOXO

Toni-Shae 

Update: Radio Interview, OOTD and life journey!

Life Journey

For the past month I have been through I slight rough patch. Do you guys know that moment where it feels like nothing is falling into place?
Trust me, it has had me down under for a while. But what keeps me going is the idea of thinking positively. I know this is easier said than done, but at least try it once in a while. Don't keep living the life of sadness. Depression is not easy to get out of. All I can say is always look for the silver lining and think positively.


Radio Interview
Last week I got the opportunity to do an interview. I was super excited because it would be the first time I would be on the radio. But it all took a turn for the worst when in the middle of the interview I made a slight grammatical error. I know I know for some it may have not been a big thing. But for me I felt like I had sunk to the bottom of the ocean. To this day I am still wondering if anyone heard it. *laugh*


OOTD
I made a hand sewn dress!

I finally decided to try it and it came out pretty good. It took me an entire day! It's a pretty simple design but, I am happy with the result.

Congrats to my lovely friend Miss Veronica McMaster, who is Miss Global Jamaica this year!



Life never fails to be interesting!

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

Rules of the summer!

Summer has arrived and I'm here with the rules for the summer. It is quite important to learn summer etiquette because it seems that the world really needs it.


1. Wear shorts that fit- I know the summer is hot. But if you are a medium and you are wearing extra small pants you may need to revisit your wardrobe. Frankly no one wants to see your butt cheeks so please cover them. Save that for your significant other or something.



2. Don't spend more than you can afford- This is pretty self explanatory. You don't wanna go broke trying to live this lifestyle you simply cannot afford.



3. Ensure that your random hook ups are married- I may not one to condone random hook ups, but what ever you do is your business. But this is important to note. You don't wannabe messing with someone else's husband because karma is a bitch.




4. Take care of your skin- Heat can seriously damage your skin, so it is important to take the necessary precautions to prevent sun and heat damage.



5. Don't forget that manicure and pedicure- This is especially important for females. Ugly looking fingers and toes are not cute. Deal with them as early as possible to avoid embarrassment.



6. Wear body appropriate swimwear- I am all about having confidence is self but certain things should be noted. Ensure your swimsuit is the right size for you and that it can cover you properly. You do not need to be blinding people on the beach!


XOXO

TONI-SHAE




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Make happiness a must in your life!

I just had to do this blog post. Lately I had been feeling a little down and to be truthful slightly depressed. It just seemed like everything bad was happening one after the other. It was almost like too much.

But then I just stopped stressing and I made the conscious decision to be happy. If you are stressing all the time it can seriously affect your health. I don't want to get sick because I am stressing over some foolishness. What ever we are thinking about may seem serious now but is losing your life more important. Definitely not!

Usually there are a few things I do to get my stress levels under control and ensure that I am in my path to happiness.

1. Take time out for yourself- If you are always that person stressing over others, never receiving that same amount of time, emotion and energy back. It may be time to stop that practice. Use that same amount of emotions, time and energy you spend on others to build yourself up. If you do not build yourself up emotionally, spiritually and everything else who will?
Sometimes even though it may seem selfish we need to think of ourself before we think of others.

2. Increase self worth- Once you have an improved self esteem you will always be happy. I don't think many realize that constantly critiquing yourself negatively can really destroy your self esteem and your happiness. I am not saying that a little critiquing is bad, but too much of it is almost like placing a whole is your own boat. Simple you will pull yourself down.

3. Pamper yourself- Always make time out for some sort of relaxation. Whether it be pampering yourself at home or even going to the spa, it is important. I know I am always extremely happy after I have pampered myself. It is almost like I can take on the world now.

4.Stay away from stress- If a person constantly stresses you out and places your happiness in jeopardy it is time to part company. It does not make sense that you are constantly around people that you can never truly relax and be yourself. What sense does that make?

5. Forgive and move on- I know some may wonder that does this have to do with happiness. You may be shocked how much of a big part in your life forgiveness actually plays. It takes so much energy out of you to be constantly angry. Using energy that could have been used for something positive. When I'm angry for a long period I feel like I am just in a dark whole and it drains me physically.
I plead with you, forgive and forget.

6. Put your trust in a higher being- Whether if you believe in the God, the Universe or nothing at all, we should all try this. It helps so much if we just stop stressing about the future and trust that everything will work out. It may be hard to do. Trust me when problems and struggles are the only thing you can think about it can feel like too much. All you need to do is have faith and believe it will all work out.


That's all for today everyone.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE (JAMAICAN BEAUTY)

HOW TO SURVIVE THE SINGLE LIFE!

Hey everyone and to all my lovies from across the world welcome. Today, I am going to come to you with advice on how to survive the single life.

Am I the only one who realizes that everyone is either dating or engaged! It is almost like you are the odd one out if you are single.

So today I am going to give you all tips and some advice on how to survive these trying times. *giggles*

1. Do not spend your days listening to love songs. This is just going to enhance the lonely feeling you are already having and leading you sort of think that if you are single you are not truly living. If you get what I mean.

2. Do not entertain your friends when they are talking about their happyy little relationships. I kow this may sound a little harsh but, hearing of all the happiness in other's relationships will not help you. This will just make you even lonelier.

3. Focus more on yourself instead of spending your days thinking about potential relationships.

Deal with any emotional hurt you gained from previous relationships and think of ways to improve yourself and your life.

4. Do not go back to your ex.

There was a reason you let him or her, do not go back to that bad relationship! You may be feeling a little low in your spirit for now but that does not mean you should go back to crap.

5. Do not lower your standards. If you do, there is a good chance you may end up in a relationship you may regret. Always keep your standards high no matter what and if these guys or girls does not make the cut that means he or she was not right for you.


6. Do not be pressured into a relationship. No matter if your family or friends are almost forcing you to start dating do not do it unless you want to. This is the best time to 'find your back bone and gain your voice'. If you do not want to start dating do not do it!

I hope this helped someone out there and do not forget that you do not need a man or woman to complete you.


XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON