Is he the right guy for you?

If you are courting, in a relationship or even dating we ask ourselves 'is this person right for me' at least once in that relationship.

For some it may be hard to figure out. I have been through situations where I had to think hard on this topic. I truly believe committing to the wrong person can lead you down a destructive path.

So today, I'm here to provide some tips at to things to consider in answering this question.

1. Does he/ she encourage you to be a better person?

It is of extreme importance for us to look the fact that our partner doesn't encourage us to become better persons. This is a big red flag and if she do not become better we are essentially getting worse. It is not worth it to be with someone and not grow to your full potential. 

2. Does this person emotionally and financially drain you?

Many relationships that we experience may entail some emotional abusive components as well as financially negative components. I believe that for a relationship to work each person has to give there all. If an individual is emotionally abusive or condescending that is a big red flag to me. Negative behavior no matter what will eventually get you down. It is not worth it let it go!

I also have to speak on the financial aspect as well. Coming from a Caribbean culture it is emphasized greatly that a male should take care of his partner. In many cases a woman who takes care of a man financially is considered a 'fool.'

For this topic, I simply apply the 50/50 rule. In an economy such as this one it is simply not practical for the average man to spend all of his earnings on his partner. I do believe a man should take care of his household but, there still needs to be balance. You cannot be wealthy and he is starving. I also appeal to females that if you see that your man is in financial difficulties you can also help. I do not believe in paying his rent and bills but if he has proven himself to you you can return the favor.

3. Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person?

Is this person the ideal individual you would like to get married to?

Do you two speak of the future?

Do you see yourself having children with this person?

Does this person even want children?

When entering into a more serious relationship your really have to look into the future and analyse if you really see a future with this person. 

4. Do you have similar life goals?

You may as 'what does this have to do with anything?' For me if you are a goal oriented individual it is best to find someone who is the same. It tends to pose a problem if one person sets high standards for themselves whilst/ the other may be lacking ambition. 

Jamaican mothers many times say 'no take up no man wid no ambition.' 

In many cases what may happen is that one partner may end up holding back the other or it simply ends badly.

5. Is your family fond of  him?

For me family is a big part of my life and we have many family events, this being said it would be a deal breaker if family doesn't like you. For me, my family is very friendly so for them not to like you it is a big deal.

Disclaimer: you have to look at the type of family that you have and the reasons that they have for not liking this person. If the reasons are minor and you see yourself being with this person do not stop your relationship for anyone.

6. Your partner is accepting of who you are.

He/ she loves everything about you even the weird parts. This a positive sign as this means the person truly accepts you for who you are and you can truly be who you are around them. This is a must in every lasting relationship. You cannot try to change a person into what you want them to be.

These are just some points to look at but I also must state the importance of following your heart. Don't let anyone stop you from loving that special one.

Yours truly,

Toni-Shae 

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5 Guys that are the biggest waste of your time -Advice

I am back with another blog post on life.
I am here with 5 guys or just persons in general who are your biggest waste of time.
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In life we have either dated one of these men or heard of them. After the relationship ends or even during the relationship your days are spent counselling. His ex is so distraught about his actions.
Today, I am going to help you spot the men you should avoid. Hopefully, this will help with your present or future love life. One thing we should all remember is to never put anyone above yourself. Unless you are religious, then it would be God or any other supreme being. Do what you know is best for you and always seek needed help.

5 Guys to avoid:

1. The womanizer- This is the guy that seems "oh so cool" and always claims he is never in a relationship. He always acts like he is too cool to show much emotion in public. Yet in private you are his "world" and only you two know there is a relationship because he does not want anyone is his "business."
The list could go on of the warning signs. In some recent times it has even become harder to find who they are. Some men do not display any signs.
Always remember to trust you instinct. If you are not comfortable leave.


2. Man afraid of commitment- Well...either he is never in a relationship and it always ends as a result of the actions of everyone else, never him. Or maybe he is one of those men dating women for years with no sign of a marriage or engagement in site. I even saw a case where a women dated a man for ten years before he worked oven commitment issues and finally proposed.
If you really love him do what you think if best.
I am telling you what I would do. Between 1-4 years you are suppose to figure out whether you want me to be your wife or not. Before you approached me you should have solved all of your problems.
To think about it this way, it is emotionally draining to try and think you can fix someone. Each man has to make a decision for himself or you will just be causing yourself unnecessary hurt.


3. The cheap guy- He is always complaining about money. His bills always seem to be the highest and he is always low on cash. There is always another reason for him to never buy you anything not even a birthday present.
I know some independent women want to buy their own things. I totally agree with that. But, I am from a family where the man should provide. There is no way I should be dating you and if I am ever in need I can never call you. I think that is a waste. It shows you what your marriage would be like. Have you ever heard of some wives complaining that their men don't provide. That is because many times he never had to do anything during the dating stage. Trust me the dating stage is when a man tries to impress you the most.
Also, do not think it is because of his income why he does not do certain things. I remember I met this guy once who was far from wealthy. He still made sure I never wanted for anything. I was not showered with designer gifts but, he still did the gentleman like thing.


4. The abusive man- Stay away from him. He is like poison. He wants you to spend your days with him and him alone. You should not have any friends and in some cases not even talk to family. At first you thought, the possessiveness was not too bad until he said some creepy line like he would kill himself if you left. This is a man to run from once you spot the signs. He will not change. He will only get worse.


5. Men who put you last- We have all heard of those stories everything else is before you whether in a relationship or marriage. He either spends most of his life with his business, his mother or his friends. Frankly you are tired of it and he does not seem to care. All I can say is tell him how you feel or leave. Some men will never change or you may not be as important to him as you think.
One other important thing to note is to ensure you are not being just too needy. If he is a businessman you cannot expect him to be calling you every five minutes.

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Cyberbullying- Advice and Rant

Welcome back!

I was not really planning to talk about this anytime soon. But, I just had to. It is becoming such a major problem now.
So, I am just strolling on instagram(follow me @mzpanton) looking at pictures and I am shocked at the amount of  hate and negative energy out there. As I look at a picture of some random pretty girl on the popular page, I can just check for the mean comments under her pictures. The worse part about this to me is the fact that half of the people saying hateful stuff do not even know the person personally. Why would you just write random profanity under a person's picture you don't know?

For me, the only reason I can find that people would do this is simply because they want to have that person's life. They are jealous.
Just imagine these people are commenting that a person should go kill themselves!
How does that even sound justifiable in your head. To make matters worst some people call this freedom of speech. No, this is straight cyberbullying. Many of these people would not have to courage to say the same thing to a person's actual face.

This entire cyberbullying thing just annoys the heck out of me. Thank God, I have never experienced it. I do not promise that I would be as calm.

If you are one of those people taking part in this trend please stop.


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CRAZY GOOD UP AND COMING TALENTS!

GOOD MORNING MY BEAUTIES :)
I don't know if you have been keeping up with the Jamaican music scene later, I know I was not really before until I came across these two talents.
One of them you may already know, her name is Samantha J. She is a sixteen year old artist which you may know for her son "tight up skirt."

This was made a remix for Jamaican artist Red Rat's song "tight up skirt" made in the 1990's.

I am not even going to joke she is a great artist especially, just being 16. But, would I want to be the parent of 16 year old  singing that she is the girl in the tight up skirt...probably not. I am going to give her props where they are due she is a great artist and I wish her best of luck.

Our other talent is a Jamaican producer from CRF BEATZ known as Rovaunie. He is a gospel producer but, I do think he has places to go. He provides a new and edgy look to the Jamaican gospel scene. 

Here are a free samples of some of his work.

https://soundcloud.com/crf-beatz

Check him out on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/crfadvocate8701

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XOXO

TONI-SHAE :*

GET THAT MONEY!

I have been hearing all over so many beautiful girls saying that if school fails just marry well. Lets just think about it, haven't we all made a couple jokes or too about it...I know I have.

Now everyone out there is looking for a sugar daddy.
I am not here to bash all of those girls out there who like having their sugar daddies because that is just what they like.
But before you engage in these relationships here are somethings you should know.

1. Whoever you are dating ensure you actually like them for them and not their money because trust me rich men can spot a gold digger from 5 miles away. Apart from what people think they are not stupid and they will sleep with you but hardly ever marry you.
2. Don't go around trying to use people because karma is a heck of a thing. I am sure if what you did came back to you wouldn't like it.
3. Ensure that you can actually support yourself if this man leaves you.I have seen too many people out there that after the man leaves them they fall flat on their faces. First they were wearing Prada now they can barely afford Old Navy.

And for all of those people killing relationships out there, age is not a big deal I totally believe love has no specific age barrier or limit, so if you want him go get him. Do not listen to all the negativity if you feel it is right go get him!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

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MISS WORLD DRAMA!

What is this drama I have been hearing that Miss World 2013 had been dethroned?
I have seen it everywhere, even my mom who is not into beauty pageants heard about it. I found out days later that is was a lie and the Bulgarian media was just trying to stir up drama. I mean I knew some these countries took pageantry seriously but, I never thought they would go this far. It looks so darn childish, like something a 14 year old would do.
Look at me, Miss Jamaica did not win and you don't see me kicking and screaming. It is a competition so come back next year better and stronger.
Stop the crap and act like adults!

Miss World 2013, Megan Young totally deserves it. I wish her all the best. I know she will make both the Philippines and the World proud.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

INTRODUCING MISS JAMAICA UNIVERSE!

So our Miss Jamaica Universe was crowned recently! Her name is Kerrie Baylis, she is so beautiful!
I mean just look at her <3
We wish her the best of luck and we know our island Jamaica will be so proud.

Go Team Jamaica!

Congratulations to our Miss Jamaica World 2013 who made it to top 10 in the Miss World Pageant.

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XOXO

TONI-SHAE

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FACTS ABOUT ME TAG!

I know sometimes as a blogger you guys don't get to really know me so, today I am trying to change that :) *yay* Now lets get this tag started.
P. S some of these facts are pretty random.

1. I live in Kingston, Jamaica.
2. I am an October baby!
3. Baking is so my thing. It is my fav thing to do in this whole world.
4. Sometimes, I am so shy.
5. I care too much about what people think because I am afraid of being judged.
6.Transformers is like my fav movie ever.
7. I am super backwards when it comes to technology. I am like a little grandma *laughs*
8. I love everything about the army.
9.I am Christian (that is just my personal belief, I don't judge if you believe otherwise)
10.Cats are little the best creations ever, they just have such a big personality.
11. I overthink everything.
12. I am single.
13. My middle name was spelt wrong...sad right.
14. I always try to be nice to people.
15. I prefer handbags over shoes.
16. I love cheese on everything!
17. When I was younger, I always wanted braces even though I didn't need them.
18. My fav vehicle is the G-Wagon in matte black.
19. I am such a big cry baby.
20. I don't like wearing makeup other than lipstick.
21.The hottest thing for me is a guy with a great business sense.
22. I hate the dark.
23. I wrote for a local newspaper.
24. I love watching pageants.
25. I am super short, like only 5"2
26. I don't like gold jewelry unless it is a gold watch :)
27. I had low self esteem once.

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XOXO
TONI-SHAE

KIDS STOP THE SEX TAPES!

I just had to do a blog post on this. What in the Lord's name are these kids doing?
Why is a 14 year old having sex tapes and releasing pictures. I mean if you are grown and you have your significant other and you want to do 20 sex tapes in a day that is your business. But to see this from a minor is just worrying! I am not saying these kids of this age are going to be saints but, they need to learn to keep their hormones in check and be wise.
Not because I guy says he loves you means it is true and no matter what you think you are not adults yet. Look at it this way when you have no one else to answer to you can do that crap with no care in the world.
These kids don't understand that what they do now can really affect them. I mean when they want to apply for university and/ or even a job they will find these things. These pictures are online forever no matter what and then some perv will have those pictures on his laptop just looking at you.
The worst part of it all the person who decides to leak these images may end up actually being arrested for distributing child porn.

Be smart, stop this crap and if you ever need anyone to talk to email me tonishaepanton@gmail.com



XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON

SLAVE TO FASHION!

I have been going out lately and sadly noticed that people are such slaves to fashion, it is as if they have no personal style. Not because you saw it in a fashion magazine means that it would fit your body type or even look good on you. It is as if I see just walking replicas of each other everywhere.
At times it even seems like being different is ridiculed which, I clearly cannot understand.

Why is it that being different is so wrong?
Fashionistas don't be a clone of the rest of the world, make your mark. When I see you I should see who you are shinning through. Always ensure you know who you are, what you stand for and most of all live life with no regrets.

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XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

SEX IN CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS

Sometimes, I personally think when a lot of Christians talk about sex they go over board with all these do'sand don'ts. Don't get me wrong now I do believe that people should wait until marriage for sex. I think that at that time you are better capable to deal with the situations that will arise as a result. But, lets be realistic here few people wait until marriage. Even some Christians themselves give up their virginity before marriage and to me that is not my business. I am totally upset and it gets on my last nerve when I see people and especially Christians judging others. So what if she had sex early! Why is it your business that she had a child out of wedlock...sometimes it just gets catty and childish like really grow up. Some of them behave as if even talking about sex is dirty.

I have over heard discussions where I hear people saying that you should only have sex one way and oral sex is a forever a no no. You should never experiment with positions or anything like that. Really!
What society are we living in!
Whether you are a Christian or not if you are pleasing your husband physically and emotionally do you think he is going to be faithful?
Change it is up keep your husband excited, ensure that you look attractive to him...get your hair done and keep that body looking top of the line.

You should always try to compliment him as well, just as how you like hearing you look great he likes it as well. This is not only in a marriage but, even in relationships. Do not be afraid to express yourself sexually and emotionally tell him what you like. Tell him to touch that spot that you like seriously he will like it.

Ladies enjoy your time with your boyfirend/ husband don't let any moment go to waste.

That is all for today :)

XOXO

Toni- Shae

MY FAVORITE UP AND COMING JAMAICAN ARTISTS

When people generally think of Jamaica a whole bunch of things come to mind, but mostly you end up thinking of Bob Marley or like some people have this perception that everyone is a Rastafarian ..which is so not true. Jamaica is actually predominantly Christian and marijuana is not legal here !

And even though Bob Marley made great music that still lives on, Jamaica also has some really great reggae artists coming up. They have been touring Europe, Africa, Japan...all over pretty much. Soo...today I will be showing you some up and coming artists from Jamaica who have really caught my eye. 

Team Jamaica!

                                   

Love you guys :)

Jamaican Beauty

RAY J REALLY :/

I mean guys this new song from Ray J...when I heard this song I was so upset. I was just like really how old are you Ray J 5,  he is still talking about that age old sex tape issue. I think he is seriously stressing the fact that he slept with Kim Kardashian and worse like seriously the time you choose to drop that song is when she is pregnant. She is not even looking hot right now, that was such a crappy publicity stunt because no one even cares.

It is so obviously that his career is dying a slow and painful death so he trying to use Kim to get him some attention. Kim Kardashians career is obviously flourishing so, he is planning to bank on that. The Lord knows I probably only know two songs from Ray J and I don't even think they are of high quality lol. 

Word of the wise for Ray J get an actually job, stop making music and leave Kim alone for peace sack. If you are a grown man act like it. :)

XOXO

Jamaican Beauty

Toni-Shae Panton

LONELY DAYS :( AND RELATIONSHIPS

I know guys this song is old as hell but, I love it soo much. I guess maybe it's because I am single and feeling hell of lonely right now lol. People better not be looking at me like all weird beacuse we all have those moments.

I have realized I have a serious problems with relationships though like as soon as one is over I HAVE to get into another one and trust me...I don't need to hear it again that it is not normal. But these days will be over soon as soon as that engagement ring comes lol. 

Guys and girls don't be like some people that because of how lonely they are feeling jump into a crappy relationship...that won't solve anything. Stupid decisions will just make everything worse, try and just wait for that guy worth waiting for. I am sure we have all seen that girl with the crappy boyfriend and we all pity her. Don't ever settle, make sure he respects you. 

One other thing is that don't let other people influence your relationship choices because the bottom line is that you are the one who is going to be with him not your friends. Don't let people tell you he is the best one for you just because he spends a lot...even though that is nice...remember what you stand for.

This was just a random thought for today guys but really check out the song (Lotus Flower Bomb by Wale ft. Miguel). I think it is pretty good and I just love that artist Miguel...check him out :*

Love you guys :D

XOXO

Jamaican Beauty

Happy Easter Everyone!!!

Hi everyone today I just want to share a short little thought about easter. I know every country has their own easter traditions...in Jamaica we eat loads of bun and cheese and in other countries people focus on the easter bunny....I can never get how these traditions even tie in to easter.

I don't have a problem with these traditions but, what I don't like is when some of these traditions over shadow the true meaning of easter which was God dying for our sins so that we can gain eternal. I have always grown up in a Christian home so that is what I have always been taught and I don't like to see when people have somewhat lead astray from the true meaning of this day. I have also realized that society has its moral and values which I am completely against but that is another day.
This is just something to think about and if your one of those people today feeling down and depressed just know that Jesus is the only way.

PS this is my personal view on the topic and everyone may not agree :)
I HOPE YOU ENJOY YOUR EASTER

XOXO

Jamaican Beauty

TONI-SHAE PANTON