Is he the right guy for you?

If you are courting, in a relationship or even dating we ask ourselves 'is this person right for me' at least once in that relationship.

For some it may be hard to figure out. I have been through situations where I had to think hard on this topic. I truly believe committing to the wrong person can lead you down a destructive path.

So today, I'm here to provide some tips at to things to consider in answering this question.

1. Does he/ she encourage you to be a better person?

It is of extreme importance for us to look the fact that our partner doesn't encourage us to become better persons. This is a big red flag and if she do not become better we are essentially getting worse. It is not worth it to be with someone and not grow to your full potential. 

2. Does this person emotionally and financially drain you?

Many relationships that we experience may entail some emotional abusive components as well as financially negative components. I believe that for a relationship to work each person has to give there all. If an individual is emotionally abusive or condescending that is a big red flag to me. Negative behavior no matter what will eventually get you down. It is not worth it let it go!

I also have to speak on the financial aspect as well. Coming from a Caribbean culture it is emphasized greatly that a male should take care of his partner. In many cases a woman who takes care of a man financially is considered a 'fool.'

For this topic, I simply apply the 50/50 rule. In an economy such as this one it is simply not practical for the average man to spend all of his earnings on his partner. I do believe a man should take care of his household but, there still needs to be balance. You cannot be wealthy and he is starving. I also appeal to females that if you see that your man is in financial difficulties you can also help. I do not believe in paying his rent and bills but if he has proven himself to you you can return the favor.

3. Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person?

Is this person the ideal individual you would like to get married to?

Do you two speak of the future?

Do you see yourself having children with this person?

Does this person even want children?

When entering into a more serious relationship your really have to look into the future and analyse if you really see a future with this person. 

4. Do you have similar life goals?

You may as 'what does this have to do with anything?' For me if you are a goal oriented individual it is best to find someone who is the same. It tends to pose a problem if one person sets high standards for themselves whilst/ the other may be lacking ambition. 

Jamaican mothers many times say 'no take up no man wid no ambition.' 

In many cases what may happen is that one partner may end up holding back the other or it simply ends badly.

5. Is your family fond of  him?

For me family is a big part of my life and we have many family events, this being said it would be a deal breaker if family doesn't like you. For me, my family is very friendly so for them not to like you it is a big deal.

Disclaimer: you have to look at the type of family that you have and the reasons that they have for not liking this person. If the reasons are minor and you see yourself being with this person do not stop your relationship for anyone.

6. Your partner is accepting of who you are.

He/ she loves everything about you even the weird parts. This a positive sign as this means the person truly accepts you for who you are and you can truly be who you are around them. This is a must in every lasting relationship. You cannot try to change a person into what you want them to be.

These are just some points to look at but I also must state the importance of following your heart. Don't let anyone stop you from loving that special one.

Yours truly,

Toni-Shae 

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5 Guys that are the biggest waste of your time -Advice

I am back with another blog post on life.
I am here with 5 guys or just persons in general who are your biggest waste of time.
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In life we have either dated one of these men or heard of them. After the relationship ends or even during the relationship your days are spent counselling. His ex is so distraught about his actions.
Today, I am going to help you spot the men you should avoid. Hopefully, this will help with your present or future love life. One thing we should all remember is to never put anyone above yourself. Unless you are religious, then it would be God or any other supreme being. Do what you know is best for you and always seek needed help.

5 Guys to avoid:

1. The womanizer- This is the guy that seems "oh so cool" and always claims he is never in a relationship. He always acts like he is too cool to show much emotion in public. Yet in private you are his "world" and only you two know there is a relationship because he does not want anyone is his "business."
The list could go on of the warning signs. In some recent times it has even become harder to find who they are. Some men do not display any signs.
Always remember to trust you instinct. If you are not comfortable leave.


2. Man afraid of commitment- Well...either he is never in a relationship and it always ends as a result of the actions of everyone else, never him. Or maybe he is one of those men dating women for years with no sign of a marriage or engagement in site. I even saw a case where a women dated a man for ten years before he worked oven commitment issues and finally proposed.
If you really love him do what you think if best.
I am telling you what I would do. Between 1-4 years you are suppose to figure out whether you want me to be your wife or not. Before you approached me you should have solved all of your problems.
To think about it this way, it is emotionally draining to try and think you can fix someone. Each man has to make a decision for himself or you will just be causing yourself unnecessary hurt.


3. The cheap guy- He is always complaining about money. His bills always seem to be the highest and he is always low on cash. There is always another reason for him to never buy you anything not even a birthday present.
I know some independent women want to buy their own things. I totally agree with that. But, I am from a family where the man should provide. There is no way I should be dating you and if I am ever in need I can never call you. I think that is a waste. It shows you what your marriage would be like. Have you ever heard of some wives complaining that their men don't provide. That is because many times he never had to do anything during the dating stage. Trust me the dating stage is when a man tries to impress you the most.
Also, do not think it is because of his income why he does not do certain things. I remember I met this guy once who was far from wealthy. He still made sure I never wanted for anything. I was not showered with designer gifts but, he still did the gentleman like thing.


4. The abusive man- Stay away from him. He is like poison. He wants you to spend your days with him and him alone. You should not have any friends and in some cases not even talk to family. At first you thought, the possessiveness was not too bad until he said some creepy line like he would kill himself if you left. This is a man to run from once you spot the signs. He will not change. He will only get worse.


5. Men who put you last- We have all heard of those stories everything else is before you whether in a relationship or marriage. He either spends most of his life with his business, his mother or his friends. Frankly you are tired of it and he does not seem to care. All I can say is tell him how you feel or leave. Some men will never change or you may not be as important to him as you think.
One other important thing to note is to ensure you are not being just too needy. If he is a businessman you cannot expect him to be calling you every five minutes.

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Cyberbullying- Advice and Rant

Welcome back!

I was not really planning to talk about this anytime soon. But, I just had to. It is becoming such a major problem now.
So, I am just strolling on instagram(follow me @mzpanton) looking at pictures and I am shocked at the amount of  hate and negative energy out there. As I look at a picture of some random pretty girl on the popular page, I can just check for the mean comments under her pictures. The worse part about this to me is the fact that half of the people saying hateful stuff do not even know the person personally. Why would you just write random profanity under a person's picture you don't know?

For me, the only reason I can find that people would do this is simply because they want to have that person's life. They are jealous.
Just imagine these people are commenting that a person should go kill themselves!
How does that even sound justifiable in your head. To make matters worst some people call this freedom of speech. No, this is straight cyberbullying. Many of these people would not have to courage to say the same thing to a person's actual face.

This entire cyberbullying thing just annoys the heck out of me. Thank God, I have never experienced it. I do not promise that I would be as calm.

If you are one of those people taking part in this trend please stop.


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Rules of the summer!

Summer has arrived and I'm here with the rules for the summer. It is quite important to learn summer etiquette because it seems that the world really needs it.


1. Wear shorts that fit- I know the summer is hot. But if you are a medium and you are wearing extra small pants you may need to revisit your wardrobe. Frankly no one wants to see your butt cheeks so please cover them. Save that for your significant other or something.



2. Don't spend more than you can afford- This is pretty self explanatory. You don't wanna go broke trying to live this lifestyle you simply cannot afford.



3. Ensure that your random hook ups are married- I may not one to condone random hook ups, but what ever you do is your business. But this is important to note. You don't wannabe messing with someone else's husband because karma is a bitch.




4. Take care of your skin- Heat can seriously damage your skin, so it is important to take the necessary precautions to prevent sun and heat damage.



5. Don't forget that manicure and pedicure- This is especially important for females. Ugly looking fingers and toes are not cute. Deal with them as early as possible to avoid embarrassment.



6. Wear body appropriate swimwear- I am all about having confidence is self but certain things should be noted. Ensure your swimsuit is the right size for you and that it can cover you properly. You do not need to be blinding people on the beach!


XOXO

TONI-SHAE




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CELEBRITY DRAMA A.K.A MIXUP!

Like seriously  everybody, I have been scrolling on social media and there have just been some stories that I have seen that I just had to comment on. I mean this week has just been drama filled. It is worse than an episode of bad girls club.







1. Have you seen that picture that 13 year old willow posted with that 20 year old guy? I am sure you did. Guess what child protective services are investigating her parents! I am guessing they are just ensuring that Will and Jada Smith are good parents.

Well guys I don't know about you, but if I took a picture like that when I was 13 in Jamaica my parents would never be comfortable with it. This picture is highly suggestive. I think for 13 that child is under no control...I thought she was older than I am. *laughs*



2. Ray J gives Kim-K the best wedding gift ever.

There is never a dull moment with Ray-J around...that is for sure. Well I am sure you know Kim-K is getting married soon. Being the nice person Ray J is he decides to give her a wedding gift.
Knowing Ray J it is no ordinary gift. Turns out he gives her a cheque for $47K from the proceeds from their sex tape.
Talk about trying to rain on her parade!
Is Ray J trying to rain on her parade and gain even more popularity? I think so and it is working.

3. Rob Kardashian's weight gain.
This isn't a shocker to me but hey people are excited.
So Rob gained more weight...I do not know why it is such a big deal. I mean people are being catty and just downright rude and I do not get why. Some of these people criticizing do not even have a leg to stand on because they are bigger than he is.
All I am saying is that stop being mean. You do not know what he is going through. Before you talk try to walk a mile in another persons shoes.
One thing I am glad for is that his sister Khloe came to his defense. She did not just leave her brother out in the cold.




4. Readers I am going to end on the happiest note ever! Ciara finally had her baby!

I am so happy for her. She made pregnancy look so easy. She looked fab in every picture.
Congrats to Ciara and her fiance Future.




I hope you guys enjoyed it!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON

Make happiness a must in your life!

I just had to do this blog post. Lately I had been feeling a little down and to be truthful slightly depressed. It just seemed like everything bad was happening one after the other. It was almost like too much.

But then I just stopped stressing and I made the conscious decision to be happy. If you are stressing all the time it can seriously affect your health. I don't want to get sick because I am stressing over some foolishness. What ever we are thinking about may seem serious now but is losing your life more important. Definitely not!

Usually there are a few things I do to get my stress levels under control and ensure that I am in my path to happiness.

1. Take time out for yourself- If you are always that person stressing over others, never receiving that same amount of time, emotion and energy back. It may be time to stop that practice. Use that same amount of emotions, time and energy you spend on others to build yourself up. If you do not build yourself up emotionally, spiritually and everything else who will?
Sometimes even though it may seem selfish we need to think of ourself before we think of others.

2. Increase self worth- Once you have an improved self esteem you will always be happy. I don't think many realize that constantly critiquing yourself negatively can really destroy your self esteem and your happiness. I am not saying that a little critiquing is bad, but too much of it is almost like placing a whole is your own boat. Simple you will pull yourself down.

3. Pamper yourself- Always make time out for some sort of relaxation. Whether it be pampering yourself at home or even going to the spa, it is important. I know I am always extremely happy after I have pampered myself. It is almost like I can take on the world now.

4.Stay away from stress- If a person constantly stresses you out and places your happiness in jeopardy it is time to part company. It does not make sense that you are constantly around people that you can never truly relax and be yourself. What sense does that make?

5. Forgive and move on- I know some may wonder that does this have to do with happiness. You may be shocked how much of a big part in your life forgiveness actually plays. It takes so much energy out of you to be constantly angry. Using energy that could have been used for something positive. When I'm angry for a long period I feel like I am just in a dark whole and it drains me physically.
I plead with you, forgive and forget.

6. Put your trust in a higher being- Whether if you believe in the God, the Universe or nothing at all, we should all try this. It helps so much if we just stop stressing about the future and trust that everything will work out. It may be hard to do. Trust me when problems and struggles are the only thing you can think about it can feel like too much. All you need to do is have faith and believe it will all work out.


That's all for today everyone.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE (JAMAICAN BEAUTY)

GIRL GET THAT COIN!

Hey everybody! I hope all is well.
I have not done a blog post in so long, if feels foreign again. *laughs*
So, one day I was on the internet watching a little snippet from the Wendy Williams Show, which I love so much and I saw a story about Paris Hilton.
Remember her, the blonde American with the sex tape and always embarrassing herself...yup that is the one. Well it turns she is actually smarter than most thought. She is actually a great business woman which I am actually proud to hear.

I guess it may be in her genes. She came from good money, but still managed to make a good name for herself and not live off of her family.
She literally has an empire going on. She has many fragrances plus Paris stores all over the world which not only stock her fragrances, but all her other products then on top of that I think she is going to the hotel business. This is surely an example to people to never take the party girl lightly! Can you imagine her net worth is $100 million dollars!

For me I think she just used that wild persona to get her name out there and maker herself known to the world. Her strategy worked really well!

The sad part about this is that I know some girls will hear of her story now and are probably going to try it. Hopefully they do not end up broke and ratched acting. But most men never usually put the ring on that girl always drunk and just making a fool of themselves. What kind of mom would that be.

I know this idea is slightly random, but Paris' story minded me of some of those gold diggers. I am definitely not saying Paris is a gold digger. But I have seen some of these gold diggers in present times who will take suck a man dry. They open many successful businesses, invest and become millionaires themselves. Trust me never underestimate anybody the women of present times are out to get their coins!


I hope you guys liked the blog post!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

How to deal with cheating!

Well I think the picture and the topic pretty much says it all. I will be taking on the topic of cheating today.
For most people you either know of someone who was cheated on or you were cheated on yourself. You see the emotional hurt that comes with it and how it may have even changed a person's outlook on life.

For me this topic is very simple...if you don't love a person just leave, women/men are not a buffet. You can't have a little of everything. I mean if women or men are your weakness have a open relationship.

But what really gets me is the fact that some men or women cheat with everyone who will allow them but when they get cheated on it is the biggest crime ever.

Sadly if you are a person who was cheated a decision has to be made. I'm going to try and list out all the possible options and which best could help you.

1. End the relationship and leave.
2. Instead of being exclusive just have an open relationship.
3. Work through this rough patch- This may include getting counselling and talking about what caused he/she to decide to go outside the relationship.

Everybody I know I only have three options but I could not think of anymore *laughs*

I'm going to explain them to you.
So, if the guy wants to date everyone in the world why not just have an open relationship. I mean you get to date anybody else you like, but you still get to come home to that person everyday. This decision would basically be a win win situation for everybody or most people.

If you feel like you still love this person and you want to work it out get counselling. It may take a while to gain back trust, but if you think the relationship is right do it. But don't get me wrong now, if this person's actions are making you cry everyday no matter what your heart is telling you use your brain and LEAVE.

Finally if you are upset and you can't even stand to see this persons face just leave this relationship. It makes no sense, especially if you look at this person as if you are about to slash their throat at any moment now.

I personally would have either tried to work through it if I really loved the person or just end it all. I am not one for open relationships...I mean girl "ain't nobody got time for that."

Think about your future and love yourself first.

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

CRAZY GOOD UP AND COMING TALENTS!

GOOD MORNING MY BEAUTIES :)
I don't know if you have been keeping up with the Jamaican music scene later, I know I was not really before until I came across these two talents.
One of them you may already know, her name is Samantha J. She is a sixteen year old artist which you may know for her son "tight up skirt."

This was made a remix for Jamaican artist Red Rat's song "tight up skirt" made in the 1990's.

I am not even going to joke she is a great artist especially, just being 16. But, would I want to be the parent of 16 year old  singing that she is the girl in the tight up skirt...probably not. I am going to give her props where they are due she is a great artist and I wish her best of luck.

Our other talent is a Jamaican producer from CRF BEATZ known as Rovaunie. He is a gospel producer but, I do think he has places to go. He provides a new and edgy look to the Jamaican gospel scene. 

Here are a free samples of some of his work.

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XOXO

TONI-SHAE :*

GET THAT MONEY!

I have been hearing all over so many beautiful girls saying that if school fails just marry well. Lets just think about it, haven't we all made a couple jokes or too about it...I know I have.

Now everyone out there is looking for a sugar daddy.
I am not here to bash all of those girls out there who like having their sugar daddies because that is just what they like.
But before you engage in these relationships here are somethings you should know.

1. Whoever you are dating ensure you actually like them for them and not their money because trust me rich men can spot a gold digger from 5 miles away. Apart from what people think they are not stupid and they will sleep with you but hardly ever marry you.
2. Don't go around trying to use people because karma is a heck of a thing. I am sure if what you did came back to you wouldn't like it.
3. Ensure that you can actually support yourself if this man leaves you.I have seen too many people out there that after the man leaves them they fall flat on their faces. First they were wearing Prada now they can barely afford Old Navy.

And for all of those people killing relationships out there, age is not a big deal I totally believe love has no specific age barrier or limit, so if you want him go get him. Do not listen to all the negativity if you feel it is right go get him!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

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MISS WORLD DRAMA!

What is this drama I have been hearing that Miss World 2013 had been dethroned?
I have seen it everywhere, even my mom who is not into beauty pageants heard about it. I found out days later that is was a lie and the Bulgarian media was just trying to stir up drama. I mean I knew some these countries took pageantry seriously but, I never thought they would go this far. It looks so darn childish, like something a 14 year old would do.
Look at me, Miss Jamaica did not win and you don't see me kicking and screaming. It is a competition so come back next year better and stronger.
Stop the crap and act like adults!

Miss World 2013, Megan Young totally deserves it. I wish her all the best. I know she will make both the Philippines and the World proud.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

INTRODUCING MISS JAMAICA UNIVERSE!

So our Miss Jamaica Universe was crowned recently! Her name is Kerrie Baylis, she is so beautiful!
I mean just look at her <3
We wish her the best of luck and we know our island Jamaica will be so proud.

Go Team Jamaica!

Congratulations to our Miss Jamaica World 2013 who made it to top 10 in the Miss World Pageant.

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XOXO

TONI-SHAE

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WHAT TO SAY!

Hi all my loves, I hope your week went well. I was about to do a friday night blog but, then I realized that recently I have been kind of stuck. I know kind of sad. So...I was wondering is there any specific topic that any of you guys want me to tackle or write about.
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KIDS STOP THE SEX TAPES!

I just had to do a blog post on this. What in the Lord's name are these kids doing?
Why is a 14 year old having sex tapes and releasing pictures. I mean if you are grown and you have your significant other and you want to do 20 sex tapes in a day that is your business. But to see this from a minor is just worrying! I am not saying these kids of this age are going to be saints but, they need to learn to keep their hormones in check and be wise.
Not because I guy says he loves you means it is true and no matter what you think you are not adults yet. Look at it this way when you have no one else to answer to you can do that crap with no care in the world.
These kids don't understand that what they do now can really affect them. I mean when they want to apply for university and/ or even a job they will find these things. These pictures are online forever no matter what and then some perv will have those pictures on his laptop just looking at you.
The worst part of it all the person who decides to leak these images may end up actually being arrested for distributing child porn.

Be smart, stop this crap and if you ever need anyone to talk to email me tonishaepanton@gmail.com



XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON

SUGAR DADDIES!

This is going to be so short !
Let me start by explaining what a sugar daddy is:- a sugar daddy is seen a rich older man who lavishes gifts on a young woman in return for her company or sexual favours. One thing I really realize is that when people see these relationships they automatically begin judging. I have seen and actually known  people who have been in relationships with older rich men and the first thing people say is that "she is only with him for his money," which is not true. People start judging completely and I think that is so mean. I am certainly not with a older man but, it definitely gets on my last nerve when people start judging others as if they are saints. I believe in doing what you want to do, just as long as if it is best for you. People only get upset when they see someone else's relationship because they wanted to be with that guy.
Many are with sugar daddies because they are not economically stable so, they go out looking for this man as their meal ticket. The poor man is sometimes in love and they are just using him. So he is in this love bubble while, she is sucking him dry lol but, on the other side of the spectrum they get married for love. Personally, I have seen some of those relationships blossom into long term marriages and even last way longer than others.
So I am telling you all stop judging if it is not your business LEAVE IT ALONE!

XOXO
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Summer love

It's summer time. It is so time to break out your suntan lotion, pop out your swimsuit and start those summer romances. I don't know about you guys but, for me as it even gets close to summer old guys I have dated start to call back trying to date me again.

For the summer most people just claim that they want to have fun and being in a serious relationship they feel too "tied down." I have known so many people who take a break from their relationship just for that summer. My personal view on that is that you would only feel tied down if you were losing interest anyway. If he or she was making you happy you would not want to break it off no matter what season.

So....to try and help someone out there here are some guidelines when taking part in that summer romance.

1) If a summer fling is your way of entertaining yourself by all means do it but, just ensure that the other person knows what is going on. The worst thing that could ever happen is that person thinking you guys are a couple now when you just wanted to have fun...can you talk about drama waiting to happen.

2) Never get too attached because let us just be straight up here, there is a chance that the relationship was just one of convenience and you guys may never see each other again.

3) If you are thinking of having a fling one of your good friends it may be a bad idea because it can make the relationship super weird if it does not work out.

4) If you are just "playing the field" for the summer dear lord do not sleep with everyone...I mean you do not want to be seen as the summer whore. Leave something to the imagination.

5) Never do anything you will regret in the long run that you would not mind the world knowing of. So, I am begging you please don't do any sex tapes you will regret.

6) Choose where you meet your flings wisely- Do not hook up with someone at any family event...it might just turn out to be your cousin. *laughs*

7) Ensure he or she is not married. I am sure you do not want anyone's husband or wife hunting you down to tell you to stay away from their man or woman. For me I would feel so darn embarrassed.

LOVE YOU GUYS, CAN'T WAIT TO HEAR THE FUN STORIES ABOUT YOUR SUMMER :)

TONI-SHAE

KIM K's BABY NAME

Guys I was not even planning on blogging again today but, I just had to talk about this. It is being said that the name of the birth certificate on Kim K's baby is North West. Now guys don't quote me on this I don't know if it is true or not, but really North West!

Out of all of the names you had to give the child one on a compass! They could have at least been a little more creative...well let me change that they were super creature but the name was not sensible. That child is so lucky she has fabulous parents so it highly unlikely she will ever get teased in school.

But...in the end it is their child so they can do whatever they like.
With all that said I wish Kimye the best.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

I know everyone has heard about this type of relationship and a whole lot of you have tried it out. But, for all of you who do not know let me explain. The term friends with benefits is used to describe good friends who have sex together but they do not have any form of commitment.
I know for a lot of men and women say that this relationship sounds heaven sent...no ties, no connection just straight up sex and then you are friends again. It may sound all bright and beautiful but, if you are looking for something more DO NOT enter into this type of relationship. Few of these actually turn into an exclusive relationship and I mean in the mind of most persons why should it.

They get to have sex with you and then they can still be sleeping with who ever else they want without the commitment. Eventually this can end up destroying you emotionally as it is highly likely that you are going to grow to like this person and the other party may not be having the same feelings. And you know all hell is going to break loose if you in love this guy and he starts a relationship with someone else and you are out in the cold. I have seen the remnants of these type of relationships and almost always it ends with some emotional hurt whether people like to admit it or not.

So what I would like to say is only do it if you know you are ready and capable. Do not, I repeat do not enter in  this type or relationship in hopes that he will commit because for the most part it is highly unlikely. Respect yourself and only do it because you want to never let anyone force you into anything. Finally, if you are underage or no where near ready for sex leave it alone is can have serious consequences. It may seem glamorous on tv or in movies but trust me always think twice, sex can change things.




XOXO

TONI-SHAE

SEX IN CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS

Sometimes, I personally think when a lot of Christians talk about sex they go over board with all these do'sand don'ts. Don't get me wrong now I do believe that people should wait until marriage for sex. I think that at that time you are better capable to deal with the situations that will arise as a result. But, lets be realistic here few people wait until marriage. Even some Christians themselves give up their virginity before marriage and to me that is not my business. I am totally upset and it gets on my last nerve when I see people and especially Christians judging others. So what if she had sex early! Why is it your business that she had a child out of wedlock...sometimes it just gets catty and childish like really grow up. Some of them behave as if even talking about sex is dirty.

I have over heard discussions where I hear people saying that you should only have sex one way and oral sex is a forever a no no. You should never experiment with positions or anything like that. Really!
What society are we living in!
Whether you are a Christian or not if you are pleasing your husband physically and emotionally do you think he is going to be faithful?
Change it is up keep your husband excited, ensure that you look attractive to him...get your hair done and keep that body looking top of the line.

You should always try to compliment him as well, just as how you like hearing you look great he likes it as well. This is not only in a marriage but, even in relationships. Do not be afraid to express yourself sexually and emotionally tell him what you like. Tell him to touch that spot that you like seriously he will like it.

Ladies enjoy your time with your boyfirend/ husband don't let any moment go to waste.

That is all for today :)

XOXO

Toni- Shae

RAY J REALLY :/

I mean guys this new song from Ray J...when I heard this song I was so upset. I was just like really how old are you Ray J 5,  he is still talking about that age old sex tape issue. I think he is seriously stressing the fact that he slept with Kim Kardashian and worse like seriously the time you choose to drop that song is when she is pregnant. She is not even looking hot right now, that was such a crappy publicity stunt because no one even cares.

It is so obviously that his career is dying a slow and painful death so he trying to use Kim to get him some attention. Kim Kardashians career is obviously flourishing so, he is planning to bank on that. The Lord knows I probably only know two songs from Ray J and I don't even think they are of high quality lol. 

Word of the wise for Ray J get an actually job, stop making music and leave Kim alone for peace sack. If you are a grown man act like it. :)

XOXO

Jamaican Beauty

Toni-Shae Panton