5 Guys that are the biggest waste of your time -Advice

I am back with another blog post on life.
I am here with 5 guys or just persons in general who are your biggest waste of time.
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In life we have either dated one of these men or heard of them. After the relationship ends or even during the relationship your days are spent counselling. His ex is so distraught about his actions.
Today, I am going to help you spot the men you should avoid. Hopefully, this will help with your present or future love life. One thing we should all remember is to never put anyone above yourself. Unless you are religious, then it would be God or any other supreme being. Do what you know is best for you and always seek needed help.

5 Guys to avoid:

1. The womanizer- This is the guy that seems "oh so cool" and always claims he is never in a relationship. He always acts like he is too cool to show much emotion in public. Yet in private you are his "world" and only you two know there is a relationship because he does not want anyone is his "business."
The list could go on of the warning signs. In some recent times it has even become harder to find who they are. Some men do not display any signs.
Always remember to trust you instinct. If you are not comfortable leave.


2. Man afraid of commitment- Well...either he is never in a relationship and it always ends as a result of the actions of everyone else, never him. Or maybe he is one of those men dating women for years with no sign of a marriage or engagement in site. I even saw a case where a women dated a man for ten years before he worked oven commitment issues and finally proposed.
If you really love him do what you think if best.
I am telling you what I would do. Between 1-4 years you are suppose to figure out whether you want me to be your wife or not. Before you approached me you should have solved all of your problems.
To think about it this way, it is emotionally draining to try and think you can fix someone. Each man has to make a decision for himself or you will just be causing yourself unnecessary hurt.


3. The cheap guy- He is always complaining about money. His bills always seem to be the highest and he is always low on cash. There is always another reason for him to never buy you anything not even a birthday present.
I know some independent women want to buy their own things. I totally agree with that. But, I am from a family where the man should provide. There is no way I should be dating you and if I am ever in need I can never call you. I think that is a waste. It shows you what your marriage would be like. Have you ever heard of some wives complaining that their men don't provide. That is because many times he never had to do anything during the dating stage. Trust me the dating stage is when a man tries to impress you the most.
Also, do not think it is because of his income why he does not do certain things. I remember I met this guy once who was far from wealthy. He still made sure I never wanted for anything. I was not showered with designer gifts but, he still did the gentleman like thing.


4. The abusive man- Stay away from him. He is like poison. He wants you to spend your days with him and him alone. You should not have any friends and in some cases not even talk to family. At first you thought, the possessiveness was not too bad until he said some creepy line like he would kill himself if you left. This is a man to run from once you spot the signs. He will not change. He will only get worse.


5. Men who put you last- We have all heard of those stories everything else is before you whether in a relationship or marriage. He either spends most of his life with his business, his mother or his friends. Frankly you are tired of it and he does not seem to care. All I can say is tell him how you feel or leave. Some men will never change or you may not be as important to him as you think.
One other important thing to note is to ensure you are not being just too needy. If he is a businessman you cannot expect him to be calling you every five minutes.

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Cyberbullying- Advice and Rant

Welcome back!

I was not really planning to talk about this anytime soon. But, I just had to. It is becoming such a major problem now.
So, I am just strolling on instagram(follow me @mzpanton) looking at pictures and I am shocked at the amount of  hate and negative energy out there. As I look at a picture of some random pretty girl on the popular page, I can just check for the mean comments under her pictures. The worse part about this to me is the fact that half of the people saying hateful stuff do not even know the person personally. Why would you just write random profanity under a person's picture you don't know?

For me, the only reason I can find that people would do this is simply because they want to have that person's life. They are jealous.
Just imagine these people are commenting that a person should go kill themselves!
How does that even sound justifiable in your head. To make matters worst some people call this freedom of speech. No, this is straight cyberbullying. Many of these people would not have to courage to say the same thing to a person's actual face.

This entire cyberbullying thing just annoys the heck out of me. Thank God, I have never experienced it. I do not promise that I would be as calm.

If you are one of those people taking part in this trend please stop.


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Motivation for success!

Welcome back to my blog everyone.

Sorry for the lack of blog post lately. I really wanted to start making youtube videos. But it really was not working out.
Instead, I am just going to put my message in a blog post.

I am going to give everyone my advice when it comes to motivation for success.

In this present time where almost everyone is on social media or has some affiliation with it, it has lead to this 'grass is greener on the other sign syndrome.' Basically this means that when you look at another life you think of it as somewhat better than yours. In many cases we will see where this has lead to 'haters.'
In my opinion only person who are filled with jealousy speak negativity about others with no apparent reason.
Instead of speaking negativity, why not improve yourself and become successful.

Here are some basic rules that I have for persons trying to make it on the path of success.

1. Work smart not hard- This basically means that instead of spending hours on end to get a task done, efficiency should to used. With this we could find a way to get this same task done in a matter of minutes instead of hours with the same or greater level of accuracy.

2. Listen to the advice on how to make yourself better- Even though we should focus on the advice given to us, not all persons 'giving advice' actually mean good towards you. Also, some basically have no expertise in the field you are focusing on. Surely it would not make any sense to take their advice.

3.Do not let anyone demotivate you- This being said. I do not think your head should be in the clouds. You need to be very real with yourself with what you are doing. But some person are just spiritual dream killers on assignment. So, if you spot a person like that just move away.

4.Constantly improve yourself- Always look at your faults and try to fix them. If it is that you are under-qualified for a position you want go and fix that.

5. Always maintain a balance- Always remember the person who a behind you 100%. Never forget your family and the people you love after achieving success. If you are spiritual never for the God who gave these blessings to you.

XOXO

Toni-Shae
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The ALS Ice Bucket Challenge! -Lisa Hanna

I'm Back!

I just had to share this video. For some reason everyone has been doing this ALS Ice Bucket Challenge. I don't even know how this started but, when one of fav persons did it I just had to share. 

She is the Minister of Youth and Culture for Jamaica, former Miss Jamaica World and Miss World winner.

But, one thing that we need to remember if that this challenge is about donating. Giving to charities and educating others on persons suffering from Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). I pray that when people do this challenge they will actually donate to the cause.

Educate yourselves on the topic and enjoy!

Maybe one day I will try it :)

XOXO

Toni-Shae 

Update: Radio Interview, OOTD and life journey!

Life Journey

For the past month I have been through I slight rough patch. Do you guys know that moment where it feels like nothing is falling into place?
Trust me, it has had me down under for a while. But what keeps me going is the idea of thinking positively. I know this is easier said than done, but at least try it once in a while. Don't keep living the life of sadness. Depression is not easy to get out of. All I can say is always look for the silver lining and think positively.


Radio Interview
Last week I got the opportunity to do an interview. I was super excited because it would be the first time I would be on the radio. But it all took a turn for the worst when in the middle of the interview I made a slight grammatical error. I know I know for some it may have not been a big thing. But for me I felt like I had sunk to the bottom of the ocean. To this day I am still wondering if anyone heard it. *laugh*


OOTD
I made a hand sewn dress!

I finally decided to try it and it came out pretty good. It took me an entire day! It's a pretty simple design but, I am happy with the result.

Congrats to my lovely friend Miss Veronica McMaster, who is Miss Global Jamaica this year!



Life never fails to be interesting!

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

Rules of the summer!

Summer has arrived and I'm here with the rules for the summer. It is quite important to learn summer etiquette because it seems that the world really needs it.


1. Wear shorts that fit- I know the summer is hot. But if you are a medium and you are wearing extra small pants you may need to revisit your wardrobe. Frankly no one wants to see your butt cheeks so please cover them. Save that for your significant other or something.



2. Don't spend more than you can afford- This is pretty self explanatory. You don't wanna go broke trying to live this lifestyle you simply cannot afford.



3. Ensure that your random hook ups are married- I may not one to condone random hook ups, but what ever you do is your business. But this is important to note. You don't wannabe messing with someone else's husband because karma is a bitch.




4. Take care of your skin- Heat can seriously damage your skin, so it is important to take the necessary precautions to prevent sun and heat damage.



5. Don't forget that manicure and pedicure- This is especially important for females. Ugly looking fingers and toes are not cute. Deal with them as early as possible to avoid embarrassment.



6. Wear body appropriate swimwear- I am all about having confidence is self but certain things should be noted. Ensure your swimsuit is the right size for you and that it can cover you properly. You do not need to be blinding people on the beach!


XOXO

TONI-SHAE




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The Wray and Nephew Contenders

Hey everyone! I hope you are doing great because I have :)

I just have to talk about this show that has seriously been a must watch for me. It is called the Wray and Nephew Contender. It deals purely with boxing, but this year it has been past exciting. Since this season has started there was never a dull moment which was kind of shocking for me. Realistically I thought that if I just watch boxing every week eventually it would get tired. But it actually has not. They have boxers from all over the Caribbean but it takes place in Jamaica.

The quality of boxers are great! Every week has proven to be past exciting and on top of that there is great eye candy.

Example 1 my fav Sakima Mullings

I'm predicting him to win this year.








Ladies and gentlemen I promise you that if you watch it you will never be disappointed. It's on Wednesdays on TVJ if you are in Jamaica. For overseas readers I think there is a live stream of the show.





LOVE YOU GUYS

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

CELEBRITY DRAMA A.K.A MIXUP!

Like seriously  everybody, I have been scrolling on social media and there have just been some stories that I have seen that I just had to comment on. I mean this week has just been drama filled. It is worse than an episode of bad girls club.







1. Have you seen that picture that 13 year old willow posted with that 20 year old guy? I am sure you did. Guess what child protective services are investigating her parents! I am guessing they are just ensuring that Will and Jada Smith are good parents.

Well guys I don't know about you, but if I took a picture like that when I was 13 in Jamaica my parents would never be comfortable with it. This picture is highly suggestive. I think for 13 that child is under no control...I thought she was older than I am. *laughs*



2. Ray J gives Kim-K the best wedding gift ever.

There is never a dull moment with Ray-J around...that is for sure. Well I am sure you know Kim-K is getting married soon. Being the nice person Ray J is he decides to give her a wedding gift.
Knowing Ray J it is no ordinary gift. Turns out he gives her a cheque for $47K from the proceeds from their sex tape.
Talk about trying to rain on her parade!
Is Ray J trying to rain on her parade and gain even more popularity? I think so and it is working.

3. Rob Kardashian's weight gain.
This isn't a shocker to me but hey people are excited.
So Rob gained more weight...I do not know why it is such a big deal. I mean people are being catty and just downright rude and I do not get why. Some of these people criticizing do not even have a leg to stand on because they are bigger than he is.
All I am saying is that stop being mean. You do not know what he is going through. Before you talk try to walk a mile in another persons shoes.
One thing I am glad for is that his sister Khloe came to his defense. She did not just leave her brother out in the cold.




4. Readers I am going to end on the happiest note ever! Ciara finally had her baby!

I am so happy for her. She made pregnancy look so easy. She looked fab in every picture.
Congrats to Ciara and her fiance Future.




I hope you guys enjoyed it!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON

Make happiness a must in your life!

I just had to do this blog post. Lately I had been feeling a little down and to be truthful slightly depressed. It just seemed like everything bad was happening one after the other. It was almost like too much.

But then I just stopped stressing and I made the conscious decision to be happy. If you are stressing all the time it can seriously affect your health. I don't want to get sick because I am stressing over some foolishness. What ever we are thinking about may seem serious now but is losing your life more important. Definitely not!

Usually there are a few things I do to get my stress levels under control and ensure that I am in my path to happiness.

1. Take time out for yourself- If you are always that person stressing over others, never receiving that same amount of time, emotion and energy back. It may be time to stop that practice. Use that same amount of emotions, time and energy you spend on others to build yourself up. If you do not build yourself up emotionally, spiritually and everything else who will?
Sometimes even though it may seem selfish we need to think of ourself before we think of others.

2. Increase self worth- Once you have an improved self esteem you will always be happy. I don't think many realize that constantly critiquing yourself negatively can really destroy your self esteem and your happiness. I am not saying that a little critiquing is bad, but too much of it is almost like placing a whole is your own boat. Simple you will pull yourself down.

3. Pamper yourself- Always make time out for some sort of relaxation. Whether it be pampering yourself at home or even going to the spa, it is important. I know I am always extremely happy after I have pampered myself. It is almost like I can take on the world now.

4.Stay away from stress- If a person constantly stresses you out and places your happiness in jeopardy it is time to part company. It does not make sense that you are constantly around people that you can never truly relax and be yourself. What sense does that make?

5. Forgive and move on- I know some may wonder that does this have to do with happiness. You may be shocked how much of a big part in your life forgiveness actually plays. It takes so much energy out of you to be constantly angry. Using energy that could have been used for something positive. When I'm angry for a long period I feel like I am just in a dark whole and it drains me physically.
I plead with you, forgive and forget.

6. Put your trust in a higher being- Whether if you believe in the God, the Universe or nothing at all, we should all try this. It helps so much if we just stop stressing about the future and trust that everything will work out. It may be hard to do. Trust me when problems and struggles are the only thing you can think about it can feel like too much. All you need to do is have faith and believe it will all work out.


That's all for today everyone.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE (JAMAICAN BEAUTY)

GIRL GET THAT COIN!

Hey everybody! I hope all is well.
I have not done a blog post in so long, if feels foreign again. *laughs*
So, one day I was on the internet watching a little snippet from the Wendy Williams Show, which I love so much and I saw a story about Paris Hilton.
Remember her, the blonde American with the sex tape and always embarrassing herself...yup that is the one. Well it turns she is actually smarter than most thought. She is actually a great business woman which I am actually proud to hear.

I guess it may be in her genes. She came from good money, but still managed to make a good name for herself and not live off of her family.
She literally has an empire going on. She has many fragrances plus Paris stores all over the world which not only stock her fragrances, but all her other products then on top of that I think she is going to the hotel business. This is surely an example to people to never take the party girl lightly! Can you imagine her net worth is $100 million dollars!

For me I think she just used that wild persona to get her name out there and maker herself known to the world. Her strategy worked really well!

The sad part about this is that I know some girls will hear of her story now and are probably going to try it. Hopefully they do not end up broke and ratched acting. But most men never usually put the ring on that girl always drunk and just making a fool of themselves. What kind of mom would that be.

I know this idea is slightly random, but Paris' story minded me of some of those gold diggers. I am definitely not saying Paris is a gold digger. But I have seen some of these gold diggers in present times who will take suck a man dry. They open many successful businesses, invest and become millionaires themselves. Trust me never underestimate anybody the women of present times are out to get their coins!


I hope you guys liked the blog post!

XOXO

TONI-SHAE

Student Suspended for playing the part of a Male In Cheerleading Routine!

*photo taken from Jamaica Gleaner April 2014



Ever since this story came out a day or two ago it has been creating some serious waves in Jamaica. Apparently a student was suspended from a christian university in Jamaica because of the fact that she played the role of a male in a cheerleading routine. She was suspended for two weeks and you know final exams are close.

I do not see what the big deal is about that they needed to suspend this student.  I mean she was not doing anything in appropriate and she didn't hurt anybody. so what is the fuss?
Why do the people always make christians seem like loony "Jesus freaks" which most of us are not.

And also even though lesbianism or homosexuality may not be as supported in Jamaica  as in other countries, if she chooses to dress and act like a male that is her choice. This is basic human rights.
Get this they even asked her if she had a boyfriend!
Are they serious right now?
You cannot force your ways on other and I think this student should really decide to sue.

Everybody this story got me going for like all week. If you have not read about it, check it out http://jamaica-gleaner.com/latest/article.php?id=52158

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

How to deal with cheating!

Well I think the picture and the topic pretty much says it all. I will be taking on the topic of cheating today.
For most people you either know of someone who was cheated on or you were cheated on yourself. You see the emotional hurt that comes with it and how it may have even changed a person's outlook on life.

For me this topic is very simple...if you don't love a person just leave, women/men are not a buffet. You can't have a little of everything. I mean if women or men are your weakness have a open relationship.

But what really gets me is the fact that some men or women cheat with everyone who will allow them but when they get cheated on it is the biggest crime ever.

Sadly if you are a person who was cheated a decision has to be made. I'm going to try and list out all the possible options and which best could help you.

1. End the relationship and leave.
2. Instead of being exclusive just have an open relationship.
3. Work through this rough patch- This may include getting counselling and talking about what caused he/she to decide to go outside the relationship.

Everybody I know I only have three options but I could not think of anymore *laughs*

I'm going to explain them to you.
So, if the guy wants to date everyone in the world why not just have an open relationship. I mean you get to date anybody else you like, but you still get to come home to that person everyday. This decision would basically be a win win situation for everybody or most people.

If you feel like you still love this person and you want to work it out get counselling. It may take a while to gain back trust, but if you think the relationship is right do it. But don't get me wrong now, if this person's actions are making you cry everyday no matter what your heart is telling you use your brain and LEAVE.

Finally if you are upset and you can't even stand to see this persons face just leave this relationship. It makes no sense, especially if you look at this person as if you are about to slash their throat at any moment now.

I personally would have either tried to work through it if I really loved the person or just end it all. I am not one for open relationships...I mean girl "ain't nobody got time for that."

Think about your future and love yourself first.

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

I LUH YA PAPI!

Loves I have missed you guys :)

Let me get started with this post by saying I never knew Jennifer Lopez still made music videos or just music in general. Anyway I saw it a new video from her and out of curiosity I decided to watch it.

For me this story line was a little too youthful for her age, I mean isn't she like in her 40's. The song was not really that appealing to me, but maybe that is because of the fact that I am overly critical when it comes to music. 

But on a lighter note her body looks great for her age and French Montana killed his verse in the song. For me Montana pretty much brought back the song from never never land in my head, plus the video was high quality.

This song eventually grew on me though.

But don't take my word for it...check it out for yourself.

XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON

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REGGAE MONTH AND RASTAFARIANISM!

February is officially reggae month and black history month! But instead of talking about Bob Marley, who by the way is not the only contributor to Jamaica's music industry I am going to talk about the contribution of the Rastafarian movement to Jamaican music. The number one thing I cannot stand is when people like to make it seem like Bob created reggae all on his own! I am not saying he did not help reggae, but God knows give someone else some credit. Sorry I went off on a tangent as usual...time to actually talk about music.

Reggae started as the music for the oppressed and was most popular at that time in the slums of Jamaica, so also was Rastafarianism. Rastas were quite musical people and also were very in touch with their religious views and beliefs. Rastafarians have been credited for bringing reggae and dancehall to the forefront of Jamaican culture and also to the rest of the world. They sang mainly of equality, harsh living conditions and their beliefs which mainly spoke of connecting with African roots.
Reggae was the main medium used to spread their religious views.

But this type of music and belief spread by Rastas were not readily accepted in Jamaica.
They were abused, rejected and oppressed but they never gave up and for that I applaud them.
They were beaten because of the thought of them being barbaric and criminal, mainly because they smoked marijuana and their views were quite far from that of society. Can you imagine being victimized for being different?


Rastas still play a major part in Jamaican musical forms today. If you have ever seen any reggae acts you can know that the Rastafarian religion and the members fight with oppression played a major part in their music, even as if relates to their appearance.
But sadly you still see some trying to take on the Rastafarian religion as a money making tool. Many of them you will see in dreadlocks are not even dedicated to the Rastafarian religion.

It is so weird to see how things change first they were oppressed now it is like they are being accepted more than ever before.

                             Rastafarian documentary if you want to learn something more.

On a lighter note, the number one thing I love the most is a well dressed Rasta man.*heart flutters*
I'm just going to get random her and show you some men who totally embrace the Rastafarian religion, some you may know others you may not.









-Junior "Gong" Marley



Jamaican artist Chronixx accompanied by others.



- Sizzla Kalonji (Jamaican Artist)




-Jamaican Artist Richie Spice


- Buju Banton





The pictures can go on and on but guys get educated on reggae music, trust me you will find the information quite entertaining.

XOXO

Toni-Shae Panton

Don't forget to this song by a some great Jamaican artists....it is pretty good!

HOW TO SURVIVE THE SINGLE LIFE!

Hey everyone and to all my lovies from across the world welcome. Today, I am going to come to you with advice on how to survive the single life.

Am I the only one who realizes that everyone is either dating or engaged! It is almost like you are the odd one out if you are single.

So today I am going to give you all tips and some advice on how to survive these trying times. *giggles*

1. Do not spend your days listening to love songs. This is just going to enhance the lonely feeling you are already having and leading you sort of think that if you are single you are not truly living. If you get what I mean.

2. Do not entertain your friends when they are talking about their happyy little relationships. I kow this may sound a little harsh but, hearing of all the happiness in other's relationships will not help you. This will just make you even lonelier.

3. Focus more on yourself instead of spending your days thinking about potential relationships.

Deal with any emotional hurt you gained from previous relationships and think of ways to improve yourself and your life.

4. Do not go back to your ex.

There was a reason you let him or her, do not go back to that bad relationship! You may be feeling a little low in your spirit for now but that does not mean you should go back to crap.

5. Do not lower your standards. If you do, there is a good chance you may end up in a relationship you may regret. Always keep your standards high no matter what and if these guys or girls does not make the cut that means he or she was not right for you.


6. Do not be pressured into a relationship. No matter if your family or friends are almost forcing you to start dating do not do it unless you want to. This is the best time to 'find your back bone and gain your voice'. If you do not want to start dating do not do it!

I hope this helped someone out there and do not forget that you do not need a man or woman to complete you.


XOXO

TONI-SHAE PANTON